So I want to get this down before the knowledge passes, like so much else, through my fingers and rejoins the earth.
What is it like meeting your twin flame?
It’s absurd.
That’s the best way I can describe it. It is absurd because your twin flame is your mirror, but with someone else’s mind; it enforces the separation between you and your mind because you cannot help but recognize your soul in another body.
The more you get to know them, the more of your illusions drop away. The silliness and irrelevance of all the things we hold dear to our hearts becomes apparent, and they get discarded in the way a growing child lets go of his toys. I was shocked that the first thing I felt was not connection, but perspective. When speaking to my TF, it felt ridiculous that she had issues with how she looked, and her self esteem. She was a beautiful, amazing woman. However – I have had very similar issues all my life as well. Was that ridiculous too? Was that absurd? Words can’t really get across the absurdity of two beautiful people holding up signs that say “I’m ugly” and then looking at each other, and the sign, and then at each other again.
Let me rewind for a little bit. What is a twin flame? Modern hippie wisdom states that when the universe was formed, our souls came down and split in two – one masculine, one feminine. This is echoed in almost all creation stories – Adam coming down and Eve forming from his rib is one great example. One of the great journeys of the soul is to find your twin flame amongst all the millions of people you come in contact with over your lifetime.
I’ll refrain from judging the truth of the concept – as all hidden things will become revealed, in time – both out of a sense spiritual conservatism, but also because I seem to have met mine.
The second thing you notice is that there are an alarming number of commonalities between your and your TF’s life. Imagine if you were cloned at birth, then put in a totally different living situation. You would have the same likes, dislikes, but also a different perspective on the things you’ve both encountered in your life, when you finally meet. The perspective is the first thing you notice, because it’s like you, but different. The commonalities are the second thing you notice.
The third is the distance.
It’s very common for twin flame relationships – forced by circumstance or intensity or other factors – to meet, flare up a connection, and then immediately some distance is put between you and your TF. Apparently this is common, and it happened straight away with me. Perhaps it’s by design, to give you a bit of perspective on the intensity of what you just experienced. Perhaps its some time for processing, to get you used to the idea of your soul’s counterpoint in another person. Time will tell.
What’s interesting to me is that there is no love – not right away. Many people think your twin flame is your one great love, and that may be true. But it’s not apparent in the first instance of meeting someone. I can’t shake the thought that perhaps this is a relationship not for love, but growth.
Where else can you get the incredible perspective and growth opportunities of such a relationship – someone who is you, but different? At the end of that road may be your great love, the kind John Legend sings about in the video above. But it seems that first you must be worthy of that love, by burning away all the imperfections in the soul to let in the deepest amount of love that you can experience here in the physical.
I’ve been blinded by the purifying fires of love before. I wonder what lies down the end of this broken road?